OUCH! That hurts!
As ridiculous as this sounds, “Clean moms can have happy kids too.” 😂 You guys, I have to speak about a concept that is constantly shared around the mom community like a badge of honor: “Good moms have sticky floors, messy kitchens, laundry piles, dirty ovens and happy kids.” I can definitely get on board with the truth that spending time with your kids is WAY more important than vacuuming your floors. Trust me, I’ve got 3 kids and I understand the sentiment behind that. 💗 Kids take priority every time. However, if we read between the lines, those words can be unintentionally shaming to moms who keep a clean house. Think about it: If a messy house means, “good mom, happy kids,” does that alternately mean that if my house is usually clean that I am not a good mom and my kids probably aren’t happy? Does a clean house allude to neglect? Is that what “sticky floor moms” really assume? Friends, can we just accept that we all live very different lives and we all make choices that shape the environment around us? Messy, clean, and in between is all fine! Let me be the first to say that living in a pristine home is not the ultimate goal here! Organization and cleanliness can lend to a more rich and productive life, specifically as a mom! It can be helpful because it allows you to spend less time playing “catch up” with the mess, and more time for the things that matter. But listen to me: Different strokes for different folks! Not everyone desires for their kitchen pantry to be organized properly. Some people really don’t ache with longing for that, and there’s nothing wrong about it! I’m not asking for everyone to walk on eggshells, just to be open to the idea that clean moms can love their kids well, too! I’ll step off my soapbox now, I swear.